A lot of pets will ignore you, but only a cat will follow you from room to room and check your lines of vision to make absolutely certain that you can see them ignoring you.
theyre not ignoring you! this is actually just a cats way of saying they want to keep you company without infringing on your personal space. its the equivalent of going to a friends house while you both separately scroll through tumblr, even though youre glad to be together.
alternatively the cat could be curious about what you are doing, but shy to make its presence known. either way the cat is paying very close attention to you!
this made me feel better
I don’t understand why cats will have everything they do demonized no matter how innocent it is
It’s because they are hypersensitive introverts, and humans are mostly social extroverts.
Hypersensitive, introverted humans are often mistaken for antisocial, and as a species, we are myopic and anthropomorphize EVERYTHING.
Semi-social animals are not naturally intuitive to humans.
Dog packs very closely mirror a nuclear human family, made up of a mother and father and their pups, who leave to find their own mates and start their own packs as they mature beyond young adult hood.
Pigeon flocks are like a villiage comprized of one big, extended family, where children mostly stay close and new birds marry in.
Cats don’t work that way. There is no firmly set social structure for more social domestic cats to fall back on. None of the species they are thought to come from are naturally social. They mate, have kittens, and those families disperse to the four winds as soon as the young become self sufficient.
We have selected for higher tolerance to crowding and confinement, but that does not a social structure make.
A group of cats is more like random collage dorm or house mates. Whether or not they get along and how many the group can support long term depends on how well their individual personalities mesh, regardless of blood relation.
Kittens are more out going and have more energy than adult cats, but as they age, being playful and taking the risk of being friendly takes more energy than they have, so they go from being willing to play with every one to prefering the company of favorite familiar entities that have taken the time to learn about that individuals needs and preferences.
Humans, who naturally form close knit pack bonds, are generally out going, and do their very damnedest to form life long bonds of friendship see a cat’s intense curiosity and wary shyness of approach as stalkerish, and its need for quiet solitude when overstimulated (coupled with just *how* fast they become overstimulated) as fickleness, and are completely heartbroken when a friendly, out going kitten grows into a relatively shy, reserved cat.
With no effort to understand, what the average human sees is a sly, untrustwothy animal that is friendly one second, and warninglessly aggressive the next, not because there actually was no warning, but because feline body language is very subtle.
Once again, due to a cat’s sensitivity.
To a cat, humans are VERY loud, over the top dramatic, and socially dense as a fucking brick.
They have to scream EVERYTHING to get across to most of us, and that shit is exhausting.
The fact that they do make that stressful and exhausting effort proves that the ones who like us actually love us VERY much!
Just not in a way that big, loud, oblivious drama queens easily pick up on.
Reblogging to the pet blog because animal behavior.
"Are Straight Women Okay?" [Autostraddle] "But a stroll down the “his and hers” retail section will still have me on some Family Feud Steve Harvey levels of disbelief. [...] When you further investigate this phenomenon, as I did, things get real dark, real quick. The items themselves are worrying enough on their own as they reveal a prison of what women are allowed to be and should want, but then you dive deeper and the culture that lurks just behind these items reveals itself. I’ve seen the depths of this landscape and I need to ask a question: are straight woman okay? Like, not in a joking way — do they need assistance?"
"10+ Pics Proving That Cats Are Actually Demons".
"Earth’s newest cloud is terrifying".
Flaredown is "a free web and mobile app that helps patients track and visualize their illness, treatments, and symptom triggers so that they can understand how their choices affect their health". (I haven't used this. I'm passing along a rec of it being something that might be worth looking into.)
"Smurfette’s Roots: In her original incarnation, the only female Smurf reminds me of all the assumptions I’ve had to navigate about my sexuality and sense of self as a Jewish woman".
"Anorexia Survivor Posts Powerful Side by Side Photo to Instagram". [Teen Vogue] "Instagram user Megan Jayne Crabbe, a body-positive role model who beat anorexia and now uses the handle @BodyPosiPanda, posted a side-by-side image to the social media site to highlight the differences between posed photographs and reality. In both images, she's wearing the same purple lingerie, tie-dye hair, and infectious grin — but that's where the similarities stop." [Content notes: mention of past anorexia, but the photos are not from that time period.]
From last year: "The 'Gay Porn With a Different Ending' Comment, and the Problem With Homophobia in MMA". [Sarah Kurchak at the Fightland blog]
"How Can Jordan Peele Make a Movie Like Get Out & Have a White Wife? Pretty Easily Actually".
"Why do so many male journalists think female stars are flirting with them? A magazine’s profile with Selena Gomez is the latest to have an icky fixation on its subject’s looks. Perhaps it’s time for men to be banned from interviewing women".
"'Mischievous' Jane Austen 'made up' marriage records". [BBC]
"How a study about Chronic Fatigue Syndrome was doctored, adding to pain and stigma".
"Pakistani Artist’s Concept Art Of A Sci-Fi Pakistan Will Blow You Away".
"A Journey Into the Merriam-Webster Word Factory". "This month, [Kory Stamper, lexicographer], the author of the new book “Word by Word: The Secret Life of Dictionaries,” was more than happy to offer a tour of some of the distinctly analog oddities in the basement."
"2016 didn’t just give us “fake news.” It likely gave us false memories". (This touches on Trump and current events a fair bit, but is mainly about the research into memory.)
"Canadian Literature, Settler Colonialism, and Sex With Vegetables? HeerJeet has some insights". (Storify. Also mentions CanLit that involves sex with animals, which...is apparently a thing?)
"THE POTATO APOCALYPSE: To set off a truly epic rant you have to bide your time and wait until someone you know with Serious Ranting Chops is just a wee bit tipsy. Your patience will be rewarded. As mine was tonight". A Storify of an UrsulaV rant about potatoes.
"Dystopian dreams: how feminist science fiction predicted the future".
it’s MIDNIGHT but I’m just sitting here thinking bout how in all of cacw the only person Bucky initiated conversation with is Sam Wilson and CAN YOU BELIEVE Bucky invented pining the day he met Sam Wilson and then together they INVENTED LOVE
Not only that, Sam’s the only person in the entire movie Bucky makes small talk with. It’s just a couple of lines, but for Bucky, who speaks so little and only to say Very Important Things like “I wasn’t in Vienna”, “I don’t think I’m worth all this”, “but I did it”, or to Share Vital Info, and just keeps silent and as far away as possible from everyone else the rest of the time, it’s… MONUMENTAL.
“What the hell is that?”
“You couldn’t have done that earlier?”
Bucky spends the entire movie measuring his words with everybody, including Steve, and suddenly he’s saying aloud what he thinks. He’s making jokes.
(And then he’s with Steve again and he’s back to measuring his words. It’s Steve who brings up the anecdote from their past, and while they both try, the levity of that moment can’t help feeling forced, because the funny anecdote has nothing to do with what they were discussing previously, with what they’re actually doing, with what they’re about to do. It’s a distraction, a deflection, nothing more. The contrast with the easy, spontaneous banter with Sam at the airport couldn’t be more sharp.)
I was still thinking about this and I’ve realized… It all starts with the “can you move your seat up?” “no.” exchange.
And that’s emblematic because on the one hand we have Bucky who decides: fuck it, I don’t even know how many times I almost killed this dude but since he’s still here because apparently he has the same amount of self preservation Steve does (which is ZERO. ZERO. Where did Steve find him oh god I don’t even want to imagine what they could accomplish together who’s making sure they’re not gonna kill themselves in the process did they at least eat breakfast), he might as well move his seat up a little, right? Whatever. I’ve been through enough. I’m gonna ask.
And on the other hand there’s Sam who is definitely, definitely NOT ‘being a therapist’ or using reverse psychology or anything like that, he’s fucking TIRED and still kinda wondering if trusting the guy who tried to off him just a few hours before (and that’s not even counting all the other times!) is really a good idea, and if becoming an outlaw for this was actually worth it… and then he hears said guy ask him if he can move his seat up and, honestly. Honestly. Sam has been through enough. He doesn’t even need to think before answering “no.”
But that’s it. Sam isn’t trying to accomplish anything. He’s simply speaking his mind. And what does Bucky have to lose by doing the same? It’s not like Sam’s opinion of him can get any lower. Sure, he could stop replying to what Bucky says. But he doesn’t. Bucky’s so thrilled he almost can’t bring himself to shut up anymore.
I’ll never shut up about how IMPORTANT Bucky and Sam’s scenes are for the both of their characters. Sam is completely thrust away from “The Avenger’s Therapist” into a real person. Bucky’s able to show something to Sam that for (I’m assuming) many reasons he can’t show anyone else. They’re both allowed to be a little bitter. They’re both allowed to be a little sassy. But most importantly their short scenes together bring them back to being humans. You can learn more about Bucky and Sam from their interactions with each other than anyone else.
I mean, I know no one has ever accused conservatives of ideological consistency. But it stands to say from time to time.
If you can’t support yourself for a couplr months without pay then maybe you should rethink having children, they are expensive…
Its nice you are pro choice. I assume you also support fully funding planned parenthood and increasing access to contraception and keeping abortion options available.
Have you considered though that while, yes, children are expensive, they should not be a luxury afforded only to the rich who can afford to go without pay for up to a year?
No they should be a luxury afforded to people that can take care of them. So no not just rich people…
Fuck planned parenthood parenthood get a condom at cvs for contraceptives and stop murdering babies.
Sooooo you think only people “who can afford them” should have babies (as though parental leave isn’t an obvious way to assist with that) but you also think that people shouldn’t have access to options if they get pregnant and can’t afford to loose months of work without pay.
Sounds like you aren’t actually interested in a solution, just being an angry self righteous asshole. “Poor people just need to keep their knees together” isn’t really a viable policy option.
It is actually… don’t want baby don’t have sex
So only rich people get to have sex.
Because we can’t let the Poors have birth control, access to abortion, or paid parental leave if they have kids.
That’s a pretty shitty, and unrealistic, and unsustainable policy outlook. And there’s a reason that 192 countries (including the one your ass lives in) don’t do it.
I really wonder, who do wealthy conservatives think are going to work all the minimum wage jobs, serving them and their spoiled wealthy kids, if the poor stop having children and immigrants stop coming here like they want?
--Writing anything resembling fiction is happening even less. I just poked my writing tracker, and I wrote a whopping ~800 words last month, and so far, nothing at all this month. (I'm at under 3000 words for the year so far, which I needed to look up to check in at inkingitout.) My brain feels both empty and sludgy. It's very weird and I actively dislike it, but I haven't even been opening WIP files and staring at them, which is more my usual not-writing MO.
--Casual Job resumes for the spring session in about a month--which is to say, about a month later than usual. We suspect it'll only last for a month or so (presumably followed by our office keeping me and the other seasonal folks on for four additional weeks to clear the inevitable spring-session backlog), which is not wallet-cheering news.
--On the freelancing front, I just recently finished Maid-sama! and am finishing My Love Story!! for VIZ, and I also seem to have two Seven Seas series with only one volume remaining. That doesn't leave me with a worryingly-low number of titles, fortunately (I think I still have eight between the two publishers), but it's a lot wrapping up all at once.
--We're not at the point of booking plane tickets yet, but scruloose and I are starting to work out when we're probably going to be in Toronto next. It feels like it's been forever. (It hasn't. We were there last August.) So that's a thing I'm very much looking forward to.
Some more clearing out of the news chum. This collection is mostly Pesach (Passover) Related, with a few articles at the end that are more peripheral:
- Baked Pears with Walnut and Maple Syrup
- Chocolate Covered Charoset Truffles
- Matzah Tiramisu
- Greek Avgolemono Soup
- Charoset Ice Cream Exists
- Can the Bread of Affliction become a Snack Addiction?
- Starbucks Rolls Out Gluten-Free, Vegan Food Options
- Witness the Greatness of LA’s Oldest Bagel Bakery
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